Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Loving Your Home In One Step

This past spring and summer, my life has been consumed with making our house a home.  Craig and I got married in May, and I moved into his bachelor pad.  The place didn't really need a lot of work; it just needed some personality and a few touches to make it feel a little more homey.  I will be completely honest with you; I was not in love with our home at first.  I had just moved from an old historic neighborhood to suburbia, where all the houses are the same.  I started working on our home, as time passed I realized, I was decorating and doing what I love but my heart really wasn't in it.  I only wanted to do things that would increase value or not do major changes, because someday soon, we would be moving on to bigger and better things.  Then life happened, I lost my job and started school up again and we didn't really have a ton of extra money to save or put into the house like we thought we would.  The reality began to sink in we are going to be here awhile.  The big farmhouse on a piece of land that we are dreaming of would have to be put off for a few more years.   Something had to change; I needed to be happy and content with where we are living at this point in our lives.

As much as I would love to say I am completely in love with our home (this is something I am still working on) I am not.  But lately my attitude has started to turn around.  I have realized one thing that has helped me keep it in perspective, in the middle of painting, improving, and making our house a home and living with present realities. I have to

Lose the Negativity and be content.

That's it, just as easy as that.  If only that were the case, right?  Notice I didn't title this post loving your home in one 'easy' step.

I think everyone has something about their homes that they do not like.  Mansion to studio apartment, most people have two or more things that they hate about where they live, no matter what they do or where they are in life.  We life in a world of Pinterest styled rooms, where everything is perfect.  As a blogger, I love, love, love home tours, because of they are showcasing someone's real home. But even those are styled to perfection and doesn’t show everyday life lived out in those spaces.  This gives us unrealistic views of how our homes should be, not that there is anything wrong with having a clean, styled home.  But, sometimes that can be discouraging when we compare someone's perfectly styled home to our reality and getting caught up in what our home is not.

Comparing is a trap.  It causes me to focus on the imperfections of our home.  Sometimes, I feel overwhelmed, because the bedroom is still a mess or something needs to be repainted, AGAIN.  I want things to change, but things have to be taken day by day, I have to give it time.  We all have things that drive us up the wall and make us go crazy.  We get frustrated with what our homes are lacking.  I personally, get caught up in, well if I rearrange this or redecorate that, my home will be perfect and I will be content.  But the truth is until I stop being negative about our home, I won't be content.  I discover when I am discontent about any matter of my life; it spills over into every aspect.  

The giant dings in the trim that make me scream or the stains on the couch that, I tell my husband about EVERYDAY, like he didn't remember from yesterday.  All the laundry that hasn't been put away for the fifth night in a row, or the dishes in the sink.   The dog hair, that is in every inch of our home.     Those are things that happen because we live in our home, we do life there.  We make memories and invite people into our homes to share life with.  That's just us, it's our home, and we are living in it and doing our best.  Sometimes I just need a reminder to focus on what we do have.  Making a house into a home takes time and it's important to look around and appreciate what God has blessed us with.  And realize that other people have banged up trim and dog hair, too.  As a wise woman once said, it doesn't have to be perfect to be beautiful.

The bottom line is, learning to love your home, no matter what.  It's not about what you have or don't have, whether you like to decorate or don't care, it's about learning to love where you are and embracing the imperfections and the negative stuff.  Surprisingly that spills into your whole life.

Monday, October 20, 2014

Inspirational Monday #4

I don't know about you, but Monday's I always need an extra boost of inspiration.  I've decided to share some inspirational links to make the start of your week a little better.

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A few pictures of the changing leaves, I took over the weekend.  Indiana sure does know how to do fall.  You can follow me on Instagram, here.

Have you seen Emily Maynard's wedding?  It is amazing and so inspiring.  The video is even better, I balled all the way through it.

I love finding new blogs, some recent finds are Merrick's ArtAnderson and Grant, and Natalie Creates.

Joanna's home is everything I want in a dream home.

Jacey's 31 days series on Love over Fear is really speaking to my heart this month.

I hope you have a great start to your week!